Today in the sermon we’re going to be thinking and learning about sex. I think one of the most disappointing characteristics of our society’s current attitudes towards sex is the limited understanding of what sex is for. ‘Why?’ and ‘when?’ (at least in terms of appropriateness) are seldom asked questions when it comes to sex.
As far as I can gather, generally sex is seen primarily as being about pleasure, gratification, and in some fuzzy sense love, though that last one in particular is becoming less clear. There’s a continued distancing of sex from its parental aspects, and maximising sexual pleasure has become a self-evident goal.
There’s something dehumanising about this philosophy of sex.
It portrays humans as if we’re just machines—we have ‘sexual needs’ that have to be satisfied, the way a machine needs fuel. Such a view of sex distorts not only the ‘how’ and ‘when’ and ‘who with’ of sex for ourselves, but also how we view others. Single people become deficient somehow, celibate people ‘weird’, monogamous people untrue to themselves.
This is why it’s so important for all Christians, not just those in a sexual relationship, to have a healthy, biblical comprehension of sex. Our idea of sex affects the way we relate to each other. It impacts our friendships and how we relate to our spouses. It characterises how we teach our young people.
“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honourable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God.” 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5